Tuesday, September 30, 2008
A friend is someone who understands and
someone you can trust.
They will listen to you both night and day without ever making a fuss.
A friend will stand by your side when you are right and sometimes when you are wrong.
They will hold you up when you are weak and provide support to make you strong.
A friend's love is unconditional and unique in every way.
And when you have problems a true friend will kneel with you and pray.
A friend will stand by your side through thick and thin.
And whenever everyone have deserted you they still will be your friend.
A friend once said to me that a friend is sent from God above and I believe this to be true.
Because God has sent a friend to me and that friend to me is YOU.
I stand alone on this path to no where
Looking every which way for help
People see me for something i,m not
When I ask them for directions
They don't understand
So they turn their backs and walk away
I try to fallow them but can't catch up
So I then give up
And all hope is lost
I sit empty minded for as long as I can
And soon I can't take it anymore
I feel as though I don't belong
And I constantly think about if dying would be best
In that very same moment I change my mind
The figure came up and held out it's hand
Telling me it cares and that i'm not alone
I stand up strongly and give it a nod
It simply nods back
We walk away side by side
Watching eachothers backs
Through the long path in nowhere
Friday, September 26, 2008
Tuesday, September 23, 2008
Sunday, September 21, 2008
and . . . their sins." Isa. 58:1
There are probably as many alleged "reasons" as there are people. But in the simplest of terms, they all fall into one or more of three groups: fear, greed and hate.
1. Fear (of being rejected, and fear of losing something [greed])
2. Fear of conflict
3. Fear and Greed
4. Fear (of being unpopular)
5. Fear (Self-protection, Fear of Truth)
6. "Social lies, or white lies, are so common most people wouldn't even call them lies. The intent is not to deceive, but to respect the other person's sensitivity."
One reason is that often we are afraid to tell the truth because we fear losing something. We don't know how to be both absolutely truthful and how to demonstrate love at the same time. We fear that if we tell the absolute truth we shall hurt or end the social relationship. This lying is not out of love or sensitivity, but out of selfishness. We do this with family, close friends, employers and coworkers, or in any relationship where we feel we have something to lose by telling the truth.
Another reason is that we don't really care but we still wish to avoid an unpleasant or dangerous situation. We do this when shopping or traveling. We do it with neighbors, strangers or even acquaintances. We do it because we don't know the other person very well, so we don't really care. And we do it whenever there is a chance that it will somehow inconvenience us by taking up time or placing us at some risk. In other words we are afraid of losing something whether it is time, safety, or the investment of emotional effort on our part.
If the true reason for lying is sensitivity or loving concern for others, then why do we turn around and gossip behind their back to others about the lie? Why do we use their question to belittle, ridicule or slander them to others? We pretend to ourselves that it is sensitivity, but in reality, we do not respect them enough to make the effort to convey truth without being offensive. What we are demonstrating by the lying is that the individual or the relationship isn't worth the effort to tell the truth. And while we are too lazy or "too busy" to put the effort into one social relationship to tell the truth, we still have enough time and energy to use the question and the lie as gossip material in some other social relationship.
We claim sensitivity, but the fact is that we are too insensitive and contemptible of others to be able to tell the truth.
In some cases, we may know from previous experience that the person really doesn't want the truth. They are practicing self-deception and do not want to be disturbed in their fantasy. For us to lie to them makes us an enabler of their self-deception in the same way that we can enable alcoholics or drug abusers. The fact that others choose to lie to themselves does not require that we participate in their lying. We make a choice to participate or not, depending upon our own fears or insensitivity. We choose to participate in their lying because we fear losing something or because we don't really care enough to hold up the truth. Again it comes down to fear or insensitivity. Insensitivity is a lack of love, or in other words, hate.
Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful." (Pro. 27:5-6).
posted: 15 December 2005 04:44 pm ET..and I find this one very intriguing..
AMSTERDAM, Netherlands (AP) —The mysterious half-smile that has intrigued viewers of the Mona Lisa for centuries isn't really that difficult to interpret, Dutch researchers said Thursday.
She was smiling because she was happy —83 percent happy, to be exact, according to scientists from the University of Amsterdam.
In what they viewed as a fun demonstration of technology rather than a serious experiment, the researchers scanned a reproduction of Leonardo da Vinci's masterpiece and subjected it to cutting-edge "emotion recognition'' software, developed in collaboration with the University of Illinois.
The result showed the painting's famous subject was 83 percent happy, 9 percent disgusted, 6 percent fearful and 2 percent angry. She was less than 1 percent neutral, and not at all surprised.
Leonardo began work on the painting in 1503, and it now hangs in the Louvre in Paris.
The work, also known as "La Gioconda,'' is believed to have portrayed the wife of Francesco del Giocondo. The title is a play on her husband's name, and also means "the jolly lady'' in Italian.
Harro Stokman, a professor at the University of Amsterdam involved in the experiment, said the researchers knew the results would be unscientific —the software isn't designed to register subtle emotions. So it couldn't detect the hint of sexual suggestion or disdain many have read into Mona Lisa's eyes.
In addition, the technology is designed for use with modern digital films and images, and subjects first need to be scanned in a neutral emotionless state to accurately detect their current emotion.
Lead researcher Nicu Sebe took the challenge as seriously as he could, using the faces of 10 women of Mediterranean ancestry to create a composite image of a neutral expression. He then compared that to the face in the painting, scoring it on the basis of six emotions: happiness, surprise, anger, disgust, fear and sadness.
"Basically, it's like casting a spider web over the face to break it down into tiny segments,'' Stokman said. "Then you look for minute differences in the flare of the nostril or depth of the wrinkles around the eyes.''
Stokman said with a reading of 83 percent, it's clear happiness was the woman's main emotion.
Biometrics experts not involved with the experiment said the results were interesting even if they aren't the last word on the Mona Lisa.
"Facial recognition technology is advancing rapidly, but emotional recognition is really still in its infancy,'' said Larry Hornak, director of the Center for Identification Technology Research at West Virginia University.
"It sounds like they did try to use a data set, even if it was small, and that's typical of work in an area like this that's relatively new. It's an interesting result,'' he said.
Stokman said he knew the University of Amsterdam effort won't prove or disprove controversial theories about the painting. One is that it was actually a self-portrait of Leonardo himself as a woman.
"But who knows, in 30, 40, 50 years, maybe they'll be able to tell what was on her mind,'' Stokman said.
Hornak agreed the idea was entertaining.
"It's always fun to apply technology to areas of public interest, and sometimes you can come up with results that are very illuminating,'' he said.
Jim Wayman, a biometrics researcher at San Jose State University agreed.
"It's hocus pocus, not serious science,'' Wayman said. "But it's good for a laugh, and it doesn't hurt anybody.
Strolling through the Louvre, you stop at Leonard da Vinci's Mona Lisa. Initially, she appears to be smiling; but as you move your gaze, the expression changes—not so happy anymore.
Among the top questions baffling art enthusiasts is the elusive grin. Did da Vinci intentionally create the ambiguous appearance?
Here's her secret: Your first stare at the legendary canvas will most likely be directly at the sitter's eyes. At this point, the part of your eye called the fovea that picks up fine details such as color will process the image of the eyes, while your imprecise peripheral vision will pick up the image of the lips. Because peripheral vision can't distinguish fine details, it mistakes the shadows from the sitter's cheekbones as a smile. When you return your gaze to the lips, your fovea sees the fine details of the lips. Voila! A smile turned upside down.
Sunday, September 14, 2008
According to a Japanese institute that does research on blood types, there are certain personality traits that seem to match up with certain blood types. How do you rate?
You want to be a leader, and when you see something you want, you keep striving until you achieve your goal. You are a trend-setter, loyal, passionate, and self-confident. Your weaknesses include vanity and jealously and a tendency to be too competitive.
You like harmony, peace and organization. You work well with others, and are sensitive, patient and affectionate. Among your weaknesses are stubbornness and an inability to relax.
You're a rugged individualist, who's straightforward and likes to do things your own way. Creative and flexible, you adapt easily to any situation. But your insistence on being independent can sometimes go too far and become a weakness.
Cool and controlled, you're generally well liked and always put people at ease You're a natural entertainer who's tactful and fair. But you're standoffish, blunt, and have difficulty making decisions.
A glass of purple grape juice a day could leave you feeling in the pink. It is the most effective of all fruit juices at preventing heart disease and cancer, says a latest study.
It has long been known that fruits contain antioxidants called polyphenols which help to neutralise unstable oxygen molecules called free radicals. If left unchecked, these molecules can harm cells, playing a role in everything from ageing to cancer.
Researchers at the University of Glasgow in Britain wanted to see how much polyphenols remained once fruit had been turned into juice, reported the online edition of Daily Mail.
Professor Alan Crozier and other researchers tested 13 types of juice from a supermarket, including those made from pomegranates, grapefruit, apples, pineapples and tomatoes.
They were a mixture of 'not from concentrate' and 'concentrated' varieties.
A drink made from purple Concord grapes had the greatest level of antioxidants, with cloudy apple, tropical and cranberry juices coming in next, the researchers found.
Generally, the darker juices were best, with purple grapes having the highest levels of polyphenols, the researchers said in their study published in the "Journal of Agriculture and Food Chemistry".
Friday, September 12, 2008
The following three-word phrases can enrich every relationship. These are just three little But Very Powerful words:
|I'll Be There|
If you have ever had to call a friend in the middle of the night, to take a sick child to hospital, or when your car has broken down some miles from home, you will know how good it feels to hear the phrase " I'll be there. " Being there for another person is the greatest gift we can give. When we're truly present for other people, important things happen to them & us. We are renewed in love and friendship. We are restored emotionally and spiritually. Being there is at the very core of civility.
|I Miss You|
Perhaps more marriages could be saved & strengthened if couples simply & sincerely say to each other "I miss you." This powerful affirmation tells partners they are wanted, needed, desired & loved. Consider how ecstatic you would feel, if you received an unexpected phone call from your spouse in the middle of your workday, just to say "I miss you."
|I Respect You / I Trust You|
Respect and trust is another way of showing love. Its conveys the feeling that another person is a true equal. If you talk to your children as if they were adults you will strengthen the bonds & become close friends. This applies to all interpersonal relationships
|Maybe You're Right|
This phrase is highly effective in diffusing an argument and restoring frayed emotions. The flip side to "maybe you're right" is the humility of admitting maybe "I'm wrong". Let's face it. When you have a heated argument with someone, all you do is cement the other person's point of view. They, or you, will not change their stance and you run the risk of seriously damaging the relationship between you. Saying "maybe you're right" can open the door to further explore the subject, in which you may then have the opportunity to get your view across in a more rational manner.
|Please Forgive Me|
Many broken relationships could be restored and healed if people would admit their mistakes and ask for forgiveness. All of us are vulnerable to faults and failures. A man should never be ashamed to own up that he has been in the wrong, which is saying, in other words, that he is wiser today than he was yesterday.
|I Thank You|
Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy. People who enjoy the companionship of good, close friends are those who don't take daily courtesies for granted. They are quick to thank their friends for their many expressions of kindness. On the other hand, people whose circle of friends is severely constricted often do not have the attitude of gratitude.
|Count On Me|
A friend is one who walks in when others walk out. Loyalty is an essential ingredient for true friendship; it is the emotional glue that bonds people. Those that are rich in their relationships tend to be steady and true friends. When troubles come, a good friend is there indicating "you can count on me."
|Let Me Help|
The best of friends see a need and try to fill it. When they spot a hurt they do what they can to heal it. Without being asked, they pitch in and help.
|I Understand You|
People become closer and enjoy each other more if they feel the other person accepts and understands them. Letting your spouse know in so many little ways that you understand them, is one of the most powerful tools for healing relationship. This applies to any relationship.
|Go For It|
We are all unique individuals. Don't try to get your friends to conform to your ideals. Support them in pursuing their interests, no matter how weird they seem to you. Everyone has dreams, dreams that are unique to that person only. Support and encourage your friends to follow their dreams. Tell them to "go for it."
|I Love You|
Perhaps the most important three words that you can say. Telling someone that you truly love them satisfies a person's deepest emotional needs. The need to belong, to feel appreciated and to be wanted. Your spouse, your children, your friends and you, all need to hear those three little words "I love you."
This keyboard has the same measurements as a standard 102-key keyboard, but there's a big difference. You can roll this one up and put it in your pocket. Nice
This one might be useful if you're in the need to type stuff while doing practical work in tough climates - but if you would wear this keyboard at the office, you might be considered a bit geeky.
VIRTUAL LASER KEYBOARD
Wow, it's heating up, don't you agree? This is more cool than weird though. This laser gadget projects a virtual keyboard on a table or other suitable material, and then interpret your finger movement and pass them on to your PDA or whatever you have it connected to. Cool.
The frogpad is a tiny, tiny keyboard - or it would be more suitable to call it a keypad actually. The manufacturer say that you can get up to 40 words per minute if you practice between 6 to 10 hours with it. Any idea why they are calling it a frogpad?
AND THE TIDY TIPPIST
Isn't this one lovely? The keyboard is hidden inside a decorative, washable tablecloth. The electronic is woven into a fabric, which finds itself between layers of water resistant felt as sandwich material. The soft felt surface makes it a pleasure for fingers to tip - a cosy keyboard. Awesome, hehe.
ANGEL FALLS IN VENEZUELA, It is famous for being the highest waterfall in the world with a drop of 3,212 feet.
Thursday, September 11, 2008
Wednesday, September 10, 2008
This was written by a Metro Denver Hospice Physician
I was driving home from a meeting this evening about 5, stuck in traffic on Colorado Blvd., and the car started to choke and splutter and die - I barely managed to coast, cursing, into a gas station, glad only that I would not be blocking traffic and would have a somewhat warm spot to wait for the tow truck. It wouldn't even turn over. Before I could make the call, I saw a woman walking out of the 'quickie mart building', and it looked like she slipped on some ice and fell into a Gas pump, so I got out to see if she was okay
When I got there, it looked more like she had been overcome by sobs than that she had fallen; she was a young woman who looked really haggard with dark circles under her eyes. She dropped something as I helped her up, and I picked it up to give it to her. It was a nickel.
At that moment, everything came into focus for me: the crying woman, the ancient Suburban crammed full of stuff with 3 kids in the back (1 in a car seat), and the gas pump reading $4.95.
I asked her if she was okay and if she needed help, and she just kept saying 'I don't want my kids to see me crying,' so we stood on the other side of the pump from her car. She said she was driving to and that things were very hard for her right now. So I asked, 'And you were praying?' That made her back away from me a little, but I assured her I was not a crazy person and said, 'He heard you, and He sent me.'
I took out my card and swiped it through the card reader on the pump so she could fill up her car completely, and while it was fueling, walked to the next door McDonald's and bought 2 big bags of food, some gift certificates for more, and a big cup of coffee. She gave the food to the kids in the
car, who attacked it like wolves, and we stood by the pump eating fries and talking a little.
She told me her name, and that she lived in Kansas City Her boyfriend left 2 months ago and she had not been able to make ends meet. She knew she wouldn't have money to pay rent Jan 1, and finally in desperation had finally called her parents, with whom she had not spoken in about 5 years. They lived in California and said she could come live with them and try to get on her feet there
So she packed up everything she owned in the car. She told the kids they were going to California for Christmas, but not that they were going to live there.
I gave her my gloves, a little hug and said a quick prayer with her for safety on the road. As I was walking over to my car, she said, 'So, are you like an angel or something?'
This definitely made me cry. I said, 'Sweetie, at this time of year angels are really busy, so sometimes God uses regular people.'
It was so incredible to be a part of someone else's miracle. And of course, you guessed it, when I got in my car it started right away and got me home with no problem. I'll put it in the shop tomorrow to check, but I suspect the mechanic won't find anything wrong.
Sometimes the angels fly close enough to you that you can hear the flutter of their wings...
Psalms 55:22 'Cast thy burden upon the Lord, and He shall sustain thee. He shall never suffer the righteous to be moved.'
Friday, September 5, 2008
Monday, September 1, 2008
Nurse come in all sizes, shapes, colors and ages.
Efficiently cheerful, they will rustle past you many times a day.
When Hercules cleaned the Augean Stables, he set a standard which the Nurse surpasses each day.
Buoyed by an immense sympathy for mankind and undismayed by experiences with particular members of that, at times, cantankerous race, they perform miracles of devotion with effortless cheer.
When you rub your Alladin's Lamp (or sound your buzzer) your little Genie appears. Perhaps they have been summoned needlessly a dozen times already. But they are cheerfully ready to soothe you, to help you down your medicine, to smooth down your bed, to answer your fears.
The Nurse is the Doctor's guard against forgetfulness, his questioning conscience, at times his challenge, and at all times his skilled right arm.
Their charming cap (well, use to be anyway) perches undisturbed through the roughest day. They have no self for themselves. Their all is for their patients. If they are short with one patient, it is because they are pressing to return to the one whose need is greater.
The Big Show (life itself) must go on. This is the Nurse's creed, their battle, their drive. They will fight to the end with every trick, every knowledge, ever passion.
At the end of the day, the Nurse returns home, physically weary, but with their inner light glowing brightly, for they have richly earned the peace within themselves.
If you must get sick, you are mighty lucky to have a Nurse happen to you.
IN ALL KINDS OF WONDERFUL,MAGICAL WAYS-
THEIR THOUGHTFULNESS COMES AS GIFTS FROM ABOVE
AND WE FEEL WE'RE SURROUNDED BY WARM,CARING LOVE.
LIKE UPSIDE-DOWN RAINBOWS,THEIR SMILES BRING THE SUN
AND THEY FILL HO-HUM MOMENTS WITH LAUGHTER AND FUN.
FRIENDS ARE LIKE ANGELS WITHOUT ANY WINGS
BLESSING OUR LIVES WITH THE MOST PRECIOUS THINGS.
for a REASON...
Some to challenge us,
some to inspire us,
some to stretch us,
some to encourage us
and some more for other good reasons..
But don't forget that you also play a unique
role in someone else's LIFE..
BE HAPPY whatever your doing...
No matter how small or how difficult your task is
only YOU can do it
and only GOD knows how far you influence can go...
God bless you