Tuesday, February 3, 2009

Saving your Relationship

Relationships are not perfect and this is proven time and time again when couples go through troubled periods. It is difficult to understand how a relationship got so damaged when it started out so perfectly and happily. The truth is, all relationships will face disappointing and unexpected matters and there is nothing you can do to change it, but there are ways to properly deal with those matters without having to lose your relationship.

The thought of losing your relationship, even though you are having major conflicts, is stressful and scary. Though the main focuses at the present time may be the problems, you still remember the love you share and the bond you have built, therefore you still wish to save your relationship. The good news is, there are methods you can use to save your relationship. The main key is being able to communicate on a respectable level. Both you and your partner have to cooperate by listening to each other's perspective of why the problem exists in the first place. Do not interrupt when the other is speaking because it shows lack of interest in what the other is saying and will only create more tension because it made them feel as if their words had no value. As the questions you feel are necessary to find the answers that will best explain how, why and where the problem may have come from. It is equally important for you to answer all your partners questions as well, so that he or she can understand things better, with you being able to open up and express yourself more about the issue as well.

Besides proper communication, fragility is also important. Since your relationship is going through a rough and sensitive time, it is essential to treat it with fragileness and patience so you do not worsen the situation. Everyone wants to get the problem over with and rush to the make up session, but by rushing to the making up, you will only leave space for the same issue to come back later. Take your time and take things slowly.

If you and your partner are both willing and agree that you want to save your relationship, then there is no need to speedup the process because none of you is going anywhere. Give each other space as well, so that you both will have the time to think things through on your own without having constant pressure put on you. It is important that you and your partner remember to stay individual without emotionally depending on each other on 24 hours a day, 7 days a week basis.

Only time combined with effort will save your relationship and you should always use that time wisely by discussing where the relationship went wrong, why it went wrong and how you can prevent future conflicts. Never feel the need to jump right back into things and never neglect your own independence and other priorities. If you make the healthy changes needed and stick to them, your relationship will not only be saved, but will also improve into a better and more loving relationship.

4 comments:

anne said...

If one would like to save the relationship there must be a cooperation of both parties. Hi happy evening

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eRicA said...

hi, this article that you posted regarding on saving your relationship is very true, you see right now im in that situation and i really don't know what i am going to do,... i have no one to talk about this problem with my significant other and after reading your post, parang sign sia sa akin na all we just really need to have a heart to heart talk....

i hope you continue posting articles about life, relationships and etc....

thanks! :)